Habit 4: Think Win Win

Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing–that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. There is only so much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is less for me; it’s not fair, and I’m going to make sure you don’t get anymore.

Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying. We both get to eat the pie. 

Discuss/answer the following questions/topics:

Deeply consider your own internal scripting and discuss. Is it win-lose (zero sum game)? Or is it Win-Win. How does that scripting affect your interactions with other people in your interactions? Can you identify the main source of that script? Determine whether or not those scripts serve well in your life.